All right , here it is, in my opinion. Why do immature men hereafter referred to as "boys" feel a need to belittle women , or keep them in a subservient position through shaming , coercive behavior , & many times physical threat?
Because Men don't do it. These are boys ; men who have not matured emotionally.
Because they are not adult men , no matter their physical age. Men grow like this: When we are young , we measure ourselves by how different we are from girls. Girls are weaker physically , they cry about things we don't , like things we don't care about ,they're different & kinda weird. Us guys are stronger & more assertive. To boys , that's superior. We have no real idea about the qualities & strengths of girls & women , and wouldn't view them as anything of value to us. This is how a boy views the relationship between the sexes.
Guys are cool , guys are strong. Not particularly a bad thing. We're made to approach life differently than women , & we need to understand the truth & goodness about a male role. We hang out with our young male friends , have our bonding experiences & relationships & begin forming our view of life.
After puberty dudes start getting sexually attracted to women , & all the old rules are under assault. A guy has got to maintain his "cool" , his conception of "manhood" . Girls completely upset that illusion born in boyhood. Who doesn't have a friend who became a "douche" when he met "that girl"? Most of us make the transition to Manhood more or less okay. A lot don't , remaining in groups & associations with other "boys" who never quite grew up. These dudes are sexually attracted to women , but ill equipped to maturely engage them , & thus experience frustration & anger at "losing their cool". They seek to control the situation by blaming the woman for their anxiety , belittling her body , fashion sense , or makeup. Guy's gotta stay in control , keep them ho's in their place.
It's a complete misaprehension of the relationship between man & woman , & the mark of a boy who has not become a man. Such a one can never submit to the terms of love , which for a man involves some submission to the feminine sex ; the boy views this as a betrayal of "manliness". In such a tormented psychology a woman transforms into an actual threat to an immature man's sense of self.
It's also predictable that such an individual would exhibit exagerrated , imitation traits of the "manliness" that young boys yearn for but know nothing about: hyperagressiveness , exagerrated sexual prowess , emotional invulnerability combined with hypersensitivity to attacks on one's perceived masculinity. This stunted need to dominate extends , of course , to the need to dominate women , who in this world view are inferior & weak, yet desirable on a physical level. They gather together in "packs" sharing a similar mind , a continuation of the adolescent bonding stage that never reaches the natural conclusion of manhood. And there you have it. Not being a Man , a Boy cannot achieve a proper , adult relationship with a woman & must resort to gender oppression to maintain his sense of legitimacy.
In my opinion , a Man shapes his own mind through reflection & experience. What "the guys" think is secondary bullshit, at least to me.
Incidentally - & on a personal note - as a black man , I constantly run into this mentality among my black peers & choose to conduct myself differently. Some of you brothers out there know what I mean. I don't screw around on my wife. I've fed , diapered & otherwise cared & provided for my children & I'm goddamed proud of it. You boys out there have a low opinion of a man who would do such things for his wife & family. I can't imagine who would give a shit about your opinions , though. After all , what does a Man care , really , about what a group of boys think on any matter whatsoever?